It’s easier to fail than it is to start. That, my friends, is a fact. Failure is inevitable and even the best fail sometimes. In my personal experience, success only makes an appearance after a failure or two. So why is is that the thought of failing is so scary? So scary that you can’t even bring yourself to begin in the first place?
I struggle with these thoughts daily. It’s like the thought of starting and the fear of failure are constantly playing tug-of-war and neither is actually winning. How do I overcome my fears and just start? How do I accept that failure might happen and that it doesn’t have to be crippling? Seriously, do you know? Because I am searching for the answers. 😉
Overcoming failure is easier said than done. I still let past failures roadblock me from following through with new ideas. It’s a real shame honestly and I work daily to get better about combating those nasty thoughts. I’ve got big goals and it’s hard to reach those goals without accepting that I just have to try and I might fail.
Of course, after many tries and many failures I’ve definitely learned a few things. But the fear of failing still isn’t any easier to deal with. Just incase you’re in the same boat as me I thought I would write up a few tips that keep me going when I want to quit.
- Accept that everyone, including you, fails sometimes.
- Read success stories. You’ll often find that success only came after failure.
- Persist. Keep going, keep trying, keep failing, keep your big goals in your sights.
- Think about past failures. You’re still here right?
- Write down why you think you’ll fail. Write down what you can do to prevent. And, of course, write down your plan B. If failure does come knocking at your door, you don’t want to be blindsided.
- Remember, there is always more than one way to make something happen.
- When fear shuts you down, think about how you’ll feel about yourself if you don’t try. Sure failure hurts, but I’m realizing that not starting hurts worse.
- Be open with your failures and share your experience. It’s part of the healing process.
- Don’t let anyone, including yourself, make you feel bad about failing.
- Be realistic. Okay, so trying isn’t everything, and sometimes you need to make sure you’re not setting yourself up for failure. Make sure what you’re setting out to do/accomplish/make/etc. is obtainable.
I’m writing this post as a nice reminder to myself as well. I believe in the power of words and writing down my feelings always helps me in one way or another. I’ve been facing the fear of failure regularly for quite some time now and I feel like I’m always on the losing end. Meaning, I get so worked up about failing that I just stop trying, which is probably the biggest failure of all. And that is not good for ones wellbeing. I’ve made a promise to myself to stop living like that.
One of my life mantras is to always try. And keep trying. And sometimes that’s all you can do is try and try again.